This list came about after posting a list of the top 10 things NOT to say to cancer survivors on FB (thanks Steph)! She suggested I create a list of things that "we" would LIKE to hear. I would add that some of these suggestions would be great to say to those that are caring for a loved one going through cancer as well. With the help of many other Survivors here it is...
1. "I'm sorry."
2. "It stinks/sucks that you have to go through this."
3. "How can I help?"
4. "You will beat this!"
5. "When you need someone to talk to, I am here."
6. "Can I pick your kids up for a play date?"
7. "I will be checking on you frequently to see how you are doing and how I can help."
8. "When is a good time for me to come clean your house?"
9. "Can I come to any appointments with you?"
10. "I will be keeping you in my prayers."
11. "Are you under any dietary restrictions? I will be bringing you dinner on (insert day)."
12. It's ok to not say anything...just give a hug. The worst thing you can do is avoid the person!
13. "How are you feeling today?"
14. "Can I get you anything?"
15. "Are you getting the help you need?"
**Remember that going through cancer is an emotional roller coaster and she/he may need a shoulder to cry on and then some help to be lifted up, most likely on a daily basis. Depression can be a very real challenge for many cancer survivors. Positive thoughts, notes/cards, and prayers are always a help. It is a tremendous help to just know people care!
